Learn the art of patience. Apply
discipline to your thoughts when they become anxious over the outcome of
a goal. Impatience breeds anxiety, fear, discouragement and failure.
Patience creates confidence, decisiveness, and a rational outlook, which
eventually leads to success. - Bryan Adams
I
need to hang this on every wall, mirror, bulletin board, door, etc. in
my house. We all have our faults, and this happens to be one of mine. I
struggle with patience on a daily basis, whether it be with students, my
child, slow drivers, friends, my job, and especially in my personal
life. I often wonder if I was raised in a home where I was instantly
gratified, thus leading to my incessant need for things to happen now. I
don't remember my mother falling into this trap of giving me whatever I wanted as soon as I asked for it, so this lack of patience
must have slowly progressed over the years.
My impatience has not only bred anxiety numerous times, fear, and even failure, it also has bred insecurities. The correlation between the two is somewhat of a stretch, but wanting something to happen and being forced to wait for that something to happen only increases the impatience. The longer the wait, the greater the impatience. And it's only when the outcome I had hoped for, the scenario I formulated and played out in my mind, doesn't come to fruition, the insecurity and fear appears. Therefore questioning myself: What did I do wrong? Am I not good enough? What don't I have that the other person has? Asking those kinds of questions is bound to breed insecurities in the future.
I must have been patient at some point in my life or I wouldn't have the blessings that I have in my life, but what about those things I don't have yet that I so desperately want? Is my impatience and borderline desperation for them preventing them from happening or me getting what I want?
Be patient and it will happen. Be patient and things will fall in to place. How many times have I said this to myself, read this, or listened to someone utter this to me, yet struggle to believe and internalize it? Too many times.
My impatience has not only bred anxiety numerous times, fear, and even failure, it also has bred insecurities. The correlation between the two is somewhat of a stretch, but wanting something to happen and being forced to wait for that something to happen only increases the impatience. The longer the wait, the greater the impatience. And it's only when the outcome I had hoped for, the scenario I formulated and played out in my mind, doesn't come to fruition, the insecurity and fear appears. Therefore questioning myself: What did I do wrong? Am I not good enough? What don't I have that the other person has? Asking those kinds of questions is bound to breed insecurities in the future.
I must have been patient at some point in my life or I wouldn't have the blessings that I have in my life, but what about those things I don't have yet that I so desperately want? Is my impatience and borderline desperation for them preventing them from happening or me getting what I want?
Be patient and it will happen. Be patient and things will fall in to place. How many times have I said this to myself, read this, or listened to someone utter this to me, yet struggle to believe and internalize it? Too many times.
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